There are three Ego’s fears, three ways in which we react to these fears, three ways in which the mind is separated from emotions, and three ways in which the soul is fragmented and separate from the body. From my perspective, I believe the soul is related to emotions; it is energy with information, and this information has to do with all the unresolved traumas that we have inherited from our parents and ancestors. Our goal is to learn to release all past traumas (stored as polarities in our body) and integrate all the fragments of our soul, so as to be able to connect with our own uniqueness.
We all resonate with the three types of fragmentation, although one more than the others:
People with this fear and type of disconnection tend to live in their minds and totally disregard their bodies. They may be very intellectual or imaginative. They abandon themselves and others, by not taking care and not being present. Their greatest fear is of being alone. They tend to feel and worry about others and the world. They don’t live their own lives, so they are usually not successful in their jobs. They tend to repeat family histories because of this. They “absorb” feelings from others and “keep” them, hence developing illnesses. It is not uncommon for some to end up in drug or alcohol abuse as a way of comforting their feelings. They have the gift of uniting people and being very loving and compassionate, and they are very dedicated in their work.
These people have a huge fear of feeling emotions and of losing control. They have a fear of failure and of being discovered as a fraud. They have fear of going crazy (if they enter in contact which too much emotional information). They need to feel they are on top of everything, and can be over controlling and overpowering, or they may project this onto others, and be victim of abuse and power struggles. They are afraid of being free, because they would have to deal with their emotions. But also afraid of no being free, because they need to feel they are in power! Their life is usually very chaotic, even though they might strive to put everything and everyone in an order comfortable for them.
Being healthy selfish
From my perspective, everyone is empathic, because everyone of us has learned to “read” and depend on others for “our survival”. But it is now time to mature as Human Beings and be in charge of oneself, and one’s own emotions. Now we are living and upheaval of violence, and parallel to that, a growth in people with good intentions and that care for others. But deep down inside, both narcissistic and (apparent) empathic behavior stem from the same issues, from the same lack of self care, self love, connection and security. So the solution is not to be nicer, but to be more self centered, to take care of oneself and one’s emotions first, and from there, relate to others. In other words, we must learn to connect not from our inner void and needs, but from our self empowerment and uniqueness. And for that, we must put all out attention on ourselves, and even risk being a bit selfish or even mean towards others.
From my point of view, it is Life and its consequences, who should reveal to you what is good and bad. And you are the only judge of your life. If you are mean and hurt someone, that’s not inherently bad, and you should not judge yourself or others because of it. If what you did as “wrong”, Life will let you see the consequences of your actions. If you realize this, you and only you will chose to adapt. And if you don’t see this, Life will bring to you a more difficult situation for you to learn.
Psychologist, Astrologist and Transformational coach
My name is Guiomar Ramírez-Montesinos. I am a psychologist, astrologer and transformational coach. I consider myself to be a change agent.